After a loss, you may be carrying an excess load. Some people describe their grief like carrying a load of bricks that keep weighing them down. The heaviness may become unbearable until you can’t move.
Let your bricks fall. They will not build you a solid foundation.
“Anyone who listens to my teaching and follows it is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock. Mathew 7:24 NKJV