What is showing through while you grieve may be only the tip of the iceberg. Ninty percent of an iceberg is below the surface and out of sight.
“while we do not look at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen. For the things which are seen are temporary, but the things which are not seen are eternal.” 2 Corinthians 4:18
As you grieve, allow God to work below the surface.