Holidays, Birthdays & Anniversaries

When we experience the loss of a loved one, it is always more difficult at the time of holidays, birthdays and anniversaries. I have two widow friends. One has a birthday on Christmas, the other’s husband passed away on Christmas day.

Whether we have to celebrate a birthday without the one who was so special in our lives, or celebrate a holiday, whether it be Easter, Thanksgiving or Christmas, it is always difficult when these particular holidays also represent spending time with family.

As Christians, we can celebrate the Resurrection of Jesus with all joy, be thankful for what God has done in our lives during Thanksgiving (and everyday), and share in the joy of the celebration of the birth of Jesus the Christ. However, it is the family meals that accompany these events and the missing person at the table that is difficult.

If it is helpful to set a place at the table that first time of absence and give others opportunity to express memories of the loved one, the meal time can be changed into a healing experience.

Jesus said that when He left earth He would send us a comforter. As believers in Jesus, we have the Holy Spirit (the comforter) living in us to be with us 24/7. He is always there and ready to comfort.

“…I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

Hebrews 13:5  NKJV

“And I will pray the Father, and He shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever; even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him; but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you.”

John 14:16,17  KJV